Re: Why a racer for cruising discussion...
Brian, this is akin to debating whether you are a serious racer if you haven't taken sandpaper and removed the varnish and the bulkheads on your boat.
It is what it is, and each person sets their own criteria for how far they pursue the differences.
One skipper has coffee cups. The next has titanium coffee mugs, because whether he's racing or cruising, they weigh less and make his boat faster and lighter--which is safer for cruisers as well. And then the next guy won't allow coffee cups onboard at all, because real sailors don't need "hot" anything at all, and the excess weight is intolerable.
A cruiser with two kids aboard? Come on now, Fedex takes live animals. The kids can spend the night on a carousel in Memphis, and join you once you make landfall. :-)