Re: I can't heave to
A friend ties a line between two deck mounted cleats (they are the aft docking cleats), one port and one starboard, with a loose clove hitch around the tiller. It acts just like a tiller tamer, but it gets out of the way when you don't want it.
I also had more trouble heaving to in fin keel boats. Another friend finally showed me how to better do it. Sheet in the jib hard, backwind it, then let out the main until it just starts to luff. I was sheeting in the main too hard and it would overpower the jib and tack the boat back.
I've also done it with main only, depowered and the tiller turned hard to keep the bow against the wind.
A tiller pilot is also a handy thing...
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