I should have followed that up with, "Yes, we are willing to commit to the cost so long as it fits within the budget." Buying a dream boat that will strain the finances? No. I won't do that. Making compromises so the costs don't exceed the budget? Absolutely.
Good enough for me! Good luck finding the right boat.
Your other post on needing two of you to agree made me think of a couple we know. This is not intended to apply to you (unless you say it does).
She has been a sailor her entire life. Her new 'significant other' (as boyfriend sounds odd in your 50s), has been a powerboater his entire life. She really wants to get a sailboat (she sold hers after a divorce several years ago) and for him to want one too. We took them away for a weekend earlier this month, with her hoping he would fall in love with sailing.
Now he's a nice guy, but it didn't take much to know it just ain't going to happen. He played along and was good company, but the sailing does nothing for him. I fear, if she doesn't let up, this could become a problem.
In any event, it does take two to tango, whatever your set of circumstances may be.