Well, most of the posts here are from the guys. So no need to feel like an intruder.
We're in quiet disagreement (minor) regarding performance. It really only matters to me in that the boat will take us from point A to point B a bit faster. Most of my sailing was done on a Columbia 45 that needs a small hurricane to get her up to speed. We motored a LOT! When taking that 8-12 hour trip, I'd like to have the option to sail if there's some wind. My So wants to go fast everywhere.
Every salesperson/broker has boats they suggest for you and when you actually see them, some of them end up on the list of possibilities. Right now, more are being added than subtracted.