The Pardey's sail on boats that can heave-to but a lot of modern boats donít have an underbody that lends itself to that technique. Personally I prefer a boat that will heave-to and it was a requirement for my present boat. I took a real beating once in a boat that didnít do well hove-to.
The funniest thing about bad weather is that the only time I have been really scared on a boat has been on a large ship in moderately bad weather. It was a cargo ship that rolled very slowly and hung at the end of the roll for what seemed like forever. I much preferred the quick roll of my own sailboat. Itís true that yachts donít get the slamming load that a ship gets but the load can still easily exceed the breaking point under some circumstances.
All the best,