Re: Pilothouses (good for wife?) bright and airy
If you can afford a Nauticat there are definitely (used) catamarans you can afford. Gemini, Iroquois, Edel, maybe a Prout. You just have to do your research and look a bit harder to find one. Or check out the Pearson Countess - I've never been aboard one but seen them in the yard and marina and think they are the best looking pilothouse boat I've seen.
FYI - I own an Iroquois MKII and my previous boat was an O'day 27 (older model, not the 272). I am 6'4" - I wouldn't live aboard the Iroquois due to lack of headroom. But others have, and there's definitely a lot more light and room than an O'day. And the sailing performance is night and day. Geminis and other small cats do have the headroom the the Iroquois lacks.