Mary, you just keep right on track with your thoughts and forget the griper that can''t get work (most likely because of his grumpy disposition)
I''d rather have a pleasant enthusiastic rookie aboard as crew anyday over a obnoxious know it all. You just ignore that fellow and keep getting out there
You had best understand that no one gets to be a seasoned sailor by sitting on the dock. Also, this is a friendlt site ...if you don''t want to be friendly - join a powerboaters site!