I put it to the ladies of Sailnet- is this lifestyle of ours as sexist as I think?
Example: I am the skipper of our boat, but almost invariably when conversation initiates with strangers on dock or at yacht club, males will speak to my husband about boat as though I'm not even standing there. I know I'm not pretty, but I don't think it's just that. Husband has noticed it too and will generally steer the stranger towards me for boat discussion which elicits surprised responses.
Other examples are rife within almost all Internet sailing fora. Observe the patronizing attitudes towards the "first mate" or "admiral," "blue jobs/pink jobs," etcetera.
To me, it seems that racing sailors and dinghy/small multihull sailors are less chauvinist, though