There should be a thread on what makes a great sailing marriage.
I'm the partner who really loves to sail, loves it so much I had to have a boat. My savings paid for the boat and I pay the slip fees out of my pocket. I'm the one who studies sailing magazines and books and reads navigation guides over coffee. I'm the one who figures out that our main isn't going up all the way because we aren't releasing the traveler, who is the better sailor in light winds, who doesn't panic at the helm in rough chop.
But sailing a modern cruiser also requires being able to fix engines and diagnose plumbing issues, and this is where my spouse, an engineer, shines. I don't think I would have dared get the boat without her. It's a sailing match made in heaven. I feel very lucky.
Releasing the main sheet not traveler.