Jumping ahead here from the first page. Let me just say it will not work for you and your wife so just send her my way! LOL...This is new to you, buy small and work your way up. Get a 30ish footer, do weekends ect and go sailing. If it works for both of you the upgrade to a 40ish liveaboard. We switched marinas/harbors three time to get "the feel" we wanted. Wife has a little sail time, I had no sail time but five years full time under power plus three of that as a full time live aboard. I tried to explain the "harbor life" but untill we found our spot with kindred souls, it didnt take. Now she is there every weekend for the social life of the harbor. Boat people are great folks but it aint for everyone. before you jump in with both feet and a big investment, start smalland try it. You give up a lot to liveaboard but you gain a lot too.