Well, nothing has happened in the way of the "big boat." I did, however, get my hands on a old Laser and have been having a blast with that. It's getting me hooked into the sailing scene here in NC, and I don't need to talk one of my less-than-enthusiastic teens into crewing in order to go out.
I figured if I can't get a big boat for a couple more years any way, I might as well get one I can sail on the lakes nearby. Truth is though, I am an open-water sailor and have been VERY frustrated on the little puddles -- as I like to call the lakes around here. So, I trailered the Laser out to the coast last weekend. Went to New Bern, Oriental and Beaufort this past weekend. Had lots of BIG wind and FUN, got beat up out there and met some fellow Laser and big boat sailors in Oriental, which was by far my favorite place to put in.
I also took a systems maintenence calss through the local power squadron, which was helpful.
As far as the decision-making process on the big boats goes, I have time and have been looking at other models like Tartans and Bristols. I like the classic
lines and reputation of these -- and I might be able to afford an older one. I will look at the Dehler as suggested.
Hey, has anyone really started a singles sailnet site? I'd rather not be a single hander if I can help it.

Any other reluctant single handers out there?
Susan