I beleive your asking how to get your point across to your significant other that you don't feel safe playing that intense. If that's the case and they are not interested in listening to your opion. I would suggest that you inquire whether they would rather single hand on the windier days. That's the polite way of saying "screw you guys I'm going home".
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