I loved the Benetau 323; pop is trading his Nordhavn in, paying off the loan and using the equity to buy one. We spent 4 days aboard one, it would be perfect for my little family as a liveaboard / racer / blue water cruiser.
If it is just me and one other person for the blue water, and we aren't planning on hammering through any huge storms, I like my "little" Lancer.
The only thing I don't like about both boats is that you have to sweep and clean like 3 times a day. If you have more than two people aboard it just gets messy so stinking fast!
If I had an unlimited budget, I would go for a 42', but no bigger. I singlehand a lot and it would be almost impossible to bring into port a ship any bigger.