Thanks Denise - interesting perspective on the "second" house. Perhaps that's why she likes the daysailor idea better, no galley. She is definitely the "homemaker" at home & I handle the outside chores, heavy lifting, handyman stuff & capital improvements. I think she resents that she's doing the same thing all the time (cooking cleaning) while I get to do the "fun" stuff (currently building a new playroom in our attic). I've tried to get her to hire a maid, but she refuses. She also refuses to let me hire out the home improvement stuff (might have to do with the small fortune I've spent on tools over the years
). When we travel or are on the boat, I do my best to pitch in on the domestic duties as I'm not busy building stuff.
We actually get out on my parent's boat fairly often, (pobably slept on the boat about 12 nights this year + a few daysails) It seems it's harder to make time to spend the whole weekend on the boat.
Regarding the "second mate" idea - hmm I don't purposefully try to be the captain, just kinda defaults due to comfort level. The problem is she isn't proactive enough to step up. It is kinda nice having someone else sail you around...