Re: Don't be so hard on the new guys
Regarding onlookers #1: Whatever they do or think is up to them and it doesn't really matter to me. However, I can control my perception and reaction.
Regarding onlookers #2: When I see them, I simply imagine their heads to be cabbage. I'm not worried about what a cabbage thinks of me.
Regarding onlookers #3: If an onlooker sees that I could use some help and offers it, I appreciate it and it makes me feel better about the world and I've learned something. If the onlooker doesn't offer, I assume he doesn't know any better than I do. I figure that onlookers have the best, non-judgmental intentions.
Regarding onlookers #4: I try to be an onlooker as much as I can. Sometimes I'll go out of my way to watch. Not because I want to judge, but because I want to learn. I have found that the best way for me to learn is to watch and emulate. If whoever I'm watching needs help, I'm glad to assist. Again, no judgement or criticism. I realize that I'm just a cabbage that is sometimes useful.