40' Pilot House
I just moved aboard a 43' pilot house. We decided that the ratio of sailing to living was going to be bigger on the "living" aspect than on the sailing. That guided our choice. You may wish to examine your prefered boats under a similalr analysis.
There are many 40' boats that are designed for a crew of two to handle. Get an auto-pilot, and single handing is very feasible. Two people handled our boat in heavier seas and moderate winds without complication.
Note: the pilot house serves as an excellent "extra room" when in port and as a foul weather helm when under-way.
Good luck & fair winds...