In the next few yrs, even IMHO curently, there are some boats that have interiors that some women want, and exteriors that allow the men in some families to race/go fast etc. Not that my wife does not race with me/us, but in higher winds, ie above 20 or so, she likes to opt out!
I say this this way, if you look at the Club Swan 42, while not "as nice" as Giullietta, certainly as fast or at least on par. Some others coming out, X41 OD etc. BUT, as he also mentioned, if you want the interior totally to the way you want, you have to commission the boat in a custom way!
Right now, I have a lovely boat, wife enjoys her a lot. BUT, with no cabin heat or shower, a bit too small for a shower, cabin heat is doable......she wants something a bit bigger so we can have the above.
There are ways to find what both want. You have to like all things, compromise, and keep looking until you find, or........
She drives me boat,
I drives me dinghy!