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Old 04-15-2008
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Here we go again ......................

Anyway, I'll join this discussion for a post or two; as it is a subject I am involved in, being employed (at least for the next 30 days, another story...) in the Human Services field.

First, I agree with Cam, the articles presented are somewhat slanted in tone, but do highlight an issue that has some factual basis.

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You are right about the sexist aspect as the evidence suggests that, when income is eliminated as a factor, moms due as well (or as poorly) as dads in raising kids alone. It is the lack of a second parent that hurts.
I don't think that single dads would be any better educated or equipped to provide for their precious little snowflakes than single moms. BUT, statistically, most of the poor and uneducated single parents are mothers. NOT because of any positive trait of maleness. Quite the opposite; it is simply the fact that the poor and uneducated dads (sperm donors) are frequently gone with the wind. Someone is going to end up with the kid, and it's usually gonna be the mom (the host).

That simple fact is going to skew the stats towards there being more poor/uneducated single moms than poor/uneducated single dads.

Yes, Mrs. Chuckles; there are many many laudable exceptions to the statistics. (my current dear wife being one; raised 2 kids to 18 yrs, single with no child support or gov. assistance )

And yes, a second parent does not guarantee a successful family; but, having been a single parent yourself, can't you admit that a second (responsible) adult could make a major difference?

It's a 'responsible' part that is key; which is my biggest complaint about the tone of the second article. So may 'conservatives' promote eliminating divorce as a be-all end-all fix to these situations. Believe me, there are MANY women and kids that are FAR better off without the males they are attached to. (Even if they have to live under a bridge to do it)

We need to better support families, of all forms, that are raising children. If we don't we will all pay for our collective failure.
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