Many, many, times I wish it was a simple as saying
" gee Honey that sucks "
(acknowledging her problem)
"here is how I'd fix it"
Grunt grunt, hammer, hammer - why isn't that enough?
Why doesn't that work and get me the gold star?
I dunno either - in a lot of ways it seems like it should. Tho if I come home and tell Dan about something yucky that happened either at work or on the Beltway, he'll give me "gee Honey that sux," then, "you wanna talk about solutions or are you just venting?" I don't always need him to fix my problems, sometimes I just want to know he sees my world the way I do. Does that help?