You have truely hit upon a problem in the boating industry. The Big 3 have been the innovators when it comes to creature comforts. About 20 years ago they had a truely revolutionary idea. They realized that families actually want convieniences and comforts in their sailboats AND an affordable price. Can you imagine such a thing?? So they began offering the things that you say that you want in your new boat. The problem is in the second half of the equation. "Affordable"
It costs money to produce a true blue-water boat. You will NOT find one at Catalina prices. Don''t get me wrong, Catalina does a great job at producing comfortable, well mannered sailboats, but they are not built on the same level as a Tartan (nor do they cost as much as a Tartan). IMO the manufactures of blue-water boats have been slow to react to the consumers desire for creature comforts.
If you want a true blue-water boat, get your check book ready. As in most things, you get what you pay for!