Lucy - This might be an idea. We are also in our '50s. My wife and I have sailed together for many years, but when we moved up to a 50' boat she became uncomfortable with the size of everything (boat, sails, gear etc) and especially her ability to manage in heavier winds and seas. After an uncomfortable gale, she determined to do a cruising course without me. The course gave her experience and information that she was able to digest at her own pace and her on schedule without her loving husband interfering or "muddling up the dynamics" of the learning experience. You might try this approach as well as the sound advice above.
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