Oh, my you poor unhappy fellow...it does take a "snot" to know one. And you obviously have been hanging out with a crowd that is as snotty, unhappy and miserable as you are. You can find good and bad no matter where you are and you apparently don''t know how to look for the good. Also, "good" does not equate with "modern", "upscale" or any of the other terms that you use to describe what your needs are.
I have learned in life that you find what you seek, you get what you expect, and people treat you as they are treated by you.
So is North Carolina really the problem? Is there a mirror on your boat?