If its calm enough anywhere back in Bay River is fine...and largely undeveloped and beautiful like almost all of this area. Further west is a small town, Vandermere. Not much to its waterfront area but lots of space to anchor. Bonner Bay is really a part of Bay River on the Southern shore and is good.
We have anchored many, many times in the waterway north of Hobucken in a place call Campbell Creek on the western side of the waterway. (~ A couple of miles north of Bay River) Very convenient to the ICW and a great place to raft up with another boat. Here is the position of our last stop in Campbell Creek 35°17.010'N 076°37.721'W if that helps.
Claiborne Young's cruising guide comes in very handy if your going to be in NC long!
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