[dquack]

Perhaps this might help refocus:

I am a singlehander. I sail a lot so there is often no no else to go with. I have set my boat up accordingly. (Lines led aft)

Always tack from a Close Reach (not close hauled)
When I tack, this is the sequence (from Starboard Tack to Port Tack):
First I tighten the Starboard Sheet and take 1 turn around the Starboard winch
Then I take all turns possible off the Port Winch and hold the Port sheet in my hand
Then I tack the helm to just short of a beam reach
I wait until just after the Jib backwinds, this helps pull the Bow around and keeps me from falling into Irons. It also keeps the jib from flogging and injuring itself.
I throw off the Port sheet and immediately pull in the Starboard Sheet as the sail comes through the foretriangle.
Since I already have one turn on the winch, as soon as the sail starts to draw, it won't pull me overboard.
I take more wraps around the winch and crank it in to proper trim.
I then go to my intended heading and trim the sails accordingly; Jib first then the main.
Very little flogging if any.
Hope that helps.

Smooth Seas,
Don