Denise, You hit the mark.
I taught sailing for many years. Anytime, you are teaching a "couple" one or the other is the dominate personally. I saw it all the time "you do this way' just after he learned the skill for himself for the first time.
I have taught Lady's only boats. Quite frankly, I like teaching the Ladies over the guys as they catch on quicker that sailing is about finesse and not force.
I would suggest that, as you say that you are menber of YC. One of the ladies must be a co-owner of a boat. Hire or get a confident instructor to volunteer to take you out as a group.
You girls have power use it. The last comment was the added by a USCG licensed 100 ton master's captain, the person the owns the other half of my boat, and my wife.