Didn't run into that when we joined our sail club last season. But I laid low; listened a lot (well, for me
); was respectful; tried hard to learn, understand and honour the club's history and traditions, and generally tried to make myself useful
The n00b is always going to be under the microscope on the part of some members--even in the friendliest of social organizations. People, in general, are suspicious of change. New people represent change. It's just human nature.