I'm so sorry to hear about your predicament...
I think you'll need to be like Santa; make a list yourself and check it twice. Remember, any stress (even good stress) is still stress on you and the family.
So, take a deep breath. Things will get better!
I traveled a lot when I was Active Duty. The "checklists" for leaving and arriving were BS and a pain in the a&&. I ended up having to make a new list myself each time, and each time it was different. I found it easiest to take the list with me everywhere so I could add to it as I remembered new things. Obviously, I still had to accomplish the military checklists.
Be safe and stay focused, because the rest of us are fighting over the slight chance you might want crew.
Skipper, J/36 "Zero Tolerance"