[choffman]

Have you actually asked her what all of her fears are? A fear of the water may be the quickest and easiest excuse.

My suggestion would be to buy the book "Changing Course : A Woman''s Guide to Choosing the Cruising Life" by Debra Ann Cantrell. Read it first yourself, and then ask her to read it so that you can discuss it together.

Your son is seven and can be homeschooled on the boat, but are you expecting her to take full responsiblity for that? I am sure that you are envisioning a life that is free of worries and burdens, but for most women, cruising adds even more worries. This book addresses most of the fears that women have.

You may have to accept the fact that she will never change her mind, as we all have different ideas on how we want to comfortably live our lives. My partner and I are in our final year of preparation to cut all land ties. His first wife met him when he was living aboard and always thought that he would "outgrow" his obsession with sailing. When he met me, I had never set foot aboard a sailboat. Four years later I cannot imagine sailing not being part of my life.

Make sure you understand your priorities. While the sailing life is your dream, what are you willing to give up to pursue it?

Cheryl H
S/V Air do Shocair