What is your budget $$. I assumed approx 100k? Max LOA you would consider? We already know that you'll accept a basic interior.
The brand new J/95 will be shown at the show....wheel steering (both the Alerion and /92 and /100 are tiller), keel/bronze centerboard, carbon sprit, spartan accomodations...supposed to sail to weather really nice and has a masthead A-sail. Base price $150k.
I still think the J/100 is your boat based on what you've told us.