I feel your pain. My boat is in the yard recovering from a recent lightning strike. Meanwhile, I'm missing out on some of the best sailing weekends of the year here on the lower Chesapeake. If you are looking for someone to talk to about hard to find Stiletto parts, you might try this blog:
He's moved up to a PDQ 32 now, but had a Stiletto for many years. He's on this forum or possibly Cruisersforum, can't remember which. His blog is good and I'm sure he'd be happy to help.