blt2ski - thanks for the recommendation.
smack - I had put a 3rd reef into the main as the wind built to over 40. I was making very little headway, but kept feeling like it was the waves slowing me down as much as anything. in retrospect, I think I probably left the staysl up too long. I put the engine on when I tried coming about a couple of times, only to have the sea smack me back - fact is that I didn't have enough omentum to come about, which in retrospect makes me think I was overpowered and left the staysl up too long. Frankly, I was amazed at how basically calm I felt - the boat is built for ocean sailing and I had complete faith that the boat would be fine as long as I didn't do something too stupid....of course that was what worried me!