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Old 11-04-2009
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OK mate.

A yacht can be a small space and you guys are going to have to sort out jobs/roles etc. I look after the physical sailing and maintaining the engine and other heavy stuff. My wife is the catering officer, but I can cook/clean & she can sail/ keep watch etc. She does any teak sanding/varnishing/oiling of the boat. I go up the mast for example. We know our territory and dont overstep without asking. Oh we do fight as per normal - just give some space and sort it out later.

As a partnership - you both have to plan and decide where/how/how long etc. We (hopefully) go about boat tasks including anchoring without speaking - no need, we know what the other is about to do. That takes time to sort out.

There are thousands of guys on boats who were Captain Bligh's and were given a choice - the boat or the wife! Dont join their ranks.

I would also say - go for a small trip and make sure it all goes well, then go a bit further. "Happy wife= happy life" and you guys are in this adventure together - you are not on a Royal Navy Destroyer, so dont turn into a jerk.

Good luck
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