A very personal decision to make. I'd agree with you that single handing is out for the time being and perhaps forever. Give up sailing? I wouldn't. What I would do is make certain that the person(s) I sail with are competent to take over command of the vessel. That includes your wife if you have one. I am constantly amazed at the husbands that do not permit their wives to handle the boat. At a minimum, she should be able to call for help on the VHF, start the engine, navigate safely avoiding obstacles and other vessels... and hopefully...ideally... be able to drop the sails and get to port. If she can't get into your slip, she should at least be able to land on a T-head or bulkhead. Anyone sailing with a wife that can't handle the boat may as well be sailing singlehanded.
Catalina 387 #29
Rock Hall, MD