Your location would influence your options. If you are in really warm waters there are lots of sailing "boards" which will give you a very quick and efficient lesson on sail and boat handling. Sunfish and the like. The smaller the boat, the faster things happen. In other words in a Sailfish, if you get the trim just right, you will know - right then! - that it is right. On the other hand, if you make a serious mistake, you are going to get wet. Right now.
Look around for really small boats that are being raced locally. Nothing will teach you to sail well faster than being part of a racing fleet. You have a good chance of crewing for someone else if there is an active racing fleet. Just don't crew on the same boat as your husband! Sailing on Other People Money is always pleasant.