[SanDiegoChip]

My friend that I went to sail classes with wanted a sail boat. He was a year or two into his marriage. We, in the mean time bought a 30’ Catalina sail boat. We offered for him and his wife to come by on the 4th to watch the fireworks. They did and she said she could never be again on a boat like this. 1983 Catalina 30’ boat. She wanted a large power boat if she were to ever go out on a boat.
A couple years latter I saw them at the marina, baby in tow. I asked him how he ever got here down here again. He said he waited a bit then got her to a boat show. She saw all the fancy 36’,38’ and 45’ etc sailing boats with the wine and flowers. All spanking new and clean, now bird sh.. etc on them. She said she would go on one of those. He then joined a sailing club. They do all the cleaning and upkeep. That’s why they were at the marina. To go take out the Hunter that was all ready for them. I learned when I wanted to upgrade to a larger boat that I would not show my wife an old bird pooped boat that I saw as a future beauty. I would find a real beauty and then show here. In other words she may not see what you see.
I also read that if you would like to get your spouse interested in sailing take them out on a beautiful 50 something footer on a beautiful day for a day sailing. Remember camping is a lot of work for a woman and she looks at a boat as more camping. I do the dishes and the cleaning and a lot of the cooking. My wife has since learned how to sail the boat! She can dock it etc. She is a bit intimated about it’s size (we did get a 36 footer) that she helped pick out. It can work out and there needs to be lots of communication and patience. Lots of safety for comfort and sailing for comfort not adrenalin sailing. Also a clean comfy head. We have installed a Vacuflush toilet with a house hold size bowel and my wife (and I) love it. The head is real import to the woman in your life be it wife or daughter or whomever.
Hope this helps