One thing to remember when cruising, you don't need to jibe and tack in a split second like on a race course. My buddy has a mid '80 Hunter 38 cutter. and when he need to tack or jibe alone he simply rolls up the jib then unrolls it when the turn is completed. The main is basically self tending. Just trim up the main, set the traveler in the middle, and go. His staysail is on a boom. The process would be the same even if your staysail is not selftending. Not much too it.
One rig you may want to look at is a sloop with a removeable inner forstay. You can sail as a sloop, but when the wind pipes up, roll up the jib and rig the inner. Only one head sail to manage, and it easy to tack.
My first boat was a C&C 36. I wanted a removable inner stay, but my boat had a bady stay that would get in the way. I tacked and jibed my 150 jib and I never had roller furling. You just have to be quick and your gear bullet proof. I am currently boat shopping and I want this rig, or possibly a solent rig.