We do see people motoring simply because the destination is upwind.. and it's always made me wonder why. Last year this time we were on a club outing going to a cove some 20 miles to weather. We headed out with a reef, got a few miles off the beach and settled into a wonderful sail, soon shaking the reef out. Several other boats that shared the same marina the night before motored the same trip - got there before us but complained how choppy and uncomfortable it'd been. We've been giving them a hard time since.
We learned to sail in an area at the head of one of our typical coastal fiords.. with diurnal winds regularly into 20 knot inflows in the afternoons, we soon learned how to get to weather - it was the only way to get anywhere from there. To this day my wife feels as the OP does... she would rather beat in 25 knots than run in 10....
1984 Fast/Nicholson 345 "FastForward"
".. there is much you could do at sea with common sense.. and very little you could do without it.."
Capt G E Ericson (from "The Cruel Sea" by Nicholas Monsarrat)