[sailingdog]

There are no passengers on smaller yatchs doing ocean crossings. No such animal exists. Small yatchs, even medium sized ones, are far too small to have the luxury of a passenger on an open water passage. People on board, who don't pull their weight, don't belong on board, regardless of how much money they may have paid for their berth.

If you are willing to work during the passage, and you might be able to work out something where you can sleep during the night, if you have additional skills like sail repair, navigation, etc... as was commonly the case on old-time sailing ships. But being along just for the ride is very probably unacceptable.

People pay good money to get a berth on a boat making a bluewater passage. To some people, the experience of being out on bluewater with an experienced captain and crew is worthwhile, often as a stepping stone to becoming a bluewater sailor. Getting paid to crew is not common on bluewater passages, especially for unskilled, unexperienced newbies.

Also, relaxing is generally not a word I'd use for even a well-equipped and well-designed boat, if it is less than 75'. Most small sailboats...and anything smaller than 75' is still a pretty small sailboat is not going to be relaxing if you hit any bad weather. Sailing is a avocation that is fraught with risk—battling the open ocean and weather is not something for the faint-hearted. That isn't to say that sailing, when properly done on a well-equipped boat, is very risky, but there will always be some element of risk that can not be avoided.