It would help if you said what skills you bring as a crew member. For instance:
Do you have any certifications like CPR, advanced first aid, etc.
Are you skilled in fiberglass repair, electrical, plumbing or diesel troubleshooting?
Do you know how to cook in a marine galley? BTW, being able to cook and being able to cook in a marine galley, often with fairly limited equipment and supplies, are two totally different things.
Do you know how to stand a night watch?
Do you know how to sail?
With all due respect, you're not thinking of putting this poor girl to work, fiberglassing your electrical plumbing to your diesel?... and THEN
making her cook while standing night watch?
Dude, she just wants to sail on a boat starting in Key West, and ending up ... somewhere.
You and I are freezing our cajones up here in New England... She does NOT want to sail with us.
(maybe Smack, or CD, but not us