4. do i owe my pal a bottle of rum?
Drink the rum yourself and forget it.
If you go out on a boat and never crash jibe have you realy sailed
My most recent was off Courtown Harbour, Irish Sea in 25 knts and I got pushed into it by a heavy cross sea. Wind was off the port beam and I was pushing to make the tide into Arklow when she crash jibed with no time to shout anything but F!!!.
I needed a drink after that