Boat buying advice for 35''''+ range
Mark, you have received some good advice and some bad advice. In most cases, well intentioned I''m sure. Since this is your first major boat, I''d go with a smaller budget, as you suggested in the $40-50k range and figure $5k+ for fixup. You''ll have plenty of time to spend the other $50k. First see if the family likes it. Go with a well found boat that holds resale value.
With different needs, I researched for a year and purchased a Tartan 33 for well under 50k and am very happy indeed. My first boat was a 23.5 Beneteau...I then did quite a bit of island chartering etc.
I would be concerned about getting slip in your area...they can be scarce, expensive or both.