I did not read every post to this thread, but I must agree
Do NOT buy this boat if you really want a wheel.
Our first boat had a tiller to wheel conversion. We were novices and really didn't understand how bad that can be. You had to sit on the side to reach the wheel which was installed fwd of the rudder post The engine controls were difficult to reach. It was a gymnastic challenge to move past the wheel to get to the companionway. The bolts were drilled through the scupper drain channels, so water leaked into the engine compartment when it rained, This ruined the starter.
Yes, like your wife, mine wanted a wheel. Better to find a different boat