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A picture..might help
push the tiller downwind..which puts the rudder to the wind..
Or turn a wheel to the wind..
Mark's objective was to take a reef while hove-to single handed. If the mainsail is hard on the wind..it's going to make it difficult to lower. The goal in this instance is to take pressure off the mainsail. So balancing the jib and the rudder is the key so that you can ease the main either by setting the traveler down..and maybe if nec..easing the sheet. It shouldn't take long once the pressure is off the mainsail to just drop it to the new tack and clew..
If the boat is heeling too much, or falling off to leeward with the jib backed and the main eased..then there's too much headsail out imo...
Heaving-to for an extended period in a storm is a somewhat different objective..