Just reading through this quickly I think the underlying issue is that you both could use some more experience, gained most readily from training and secondly from racing. May I strongly recommend that whichever you chose to do, you spend some time sailing on different boats so that the learning experience isn't polluted by the relationship between you?
sail fast and eat well, dave
beware "cut and paste" sailors.
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