Yeah, keeping your SO fully involved is really important. My wife shares the driving, sheeting and grinding as long as conditions are moderate or less. She is less confident in the heavy going and leaves that to me.
It is a wonderful thing when both partners are keen. I have seen so many sad situations where one of the partners absolutely loves the boat and the other is frightened or nervous or uninterested. Inevitably the partnership or the boat ownership suffers, usually the latter. BTW, it's not always the women who don't take to it!
25 years ago my wife was a VERY nervous sailor, but taking it slow and easing into things worked well. At the end of our first boating summer we took a 1 week cruise on a nearby sound and that cemented things forever.
Those of us who have that kind of support should be thankful...many don't!