The perfect world I envision is one in which the tiller in the hand of the opposite sex, a different race, different (or lack of) religion... whatever, is not even worthy of comment. If you handle a boat well, my hat is off to you.
For what it is worth, my own anecdotal evidence on the subject is from a man's perspective. Women seem to get more resistance from members of their own gender when it comes to attempts to break into what otherwise might be considered a domain of men, be it activities of leisure or career. That will never cease to confound me.
However, having said all that, please do not begrudge me a double take if the skipper is in a bikini. I am only human, after all.