I think the general reaction, at least my reaction would be, DUDE...why didn't you participate and assert yourself a little here...and stop whining.
Kinda changes the perspective.
I was thiking along the same lines. OP states to have some experience and knows a thing or two, well than perhaps the suggestion of rigging a preventer or helping the helmsman pay more attention would have been more productive.
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