...god bless those who quoted her original post in their reply.
No kidding. Now I know what's going on.
It sounded like Mr. Wifey is the one with experience on cruising boats, or am I interpreting it wrong?
Sorry, but you're overreacting. Loosen up a bit. He wasn't purposely trying to kill you.
Next time an accidental gybe happens (because it will), yell at Mr. Wifey asking if he's retarded or something and kick him out of the helm seat.
Set up some rules such as if someone on board is nervous, then you slow down. If there's an accidental gybe, you lose your seat at the helm.
It sounds like both of you have some experience. Both of you should know better than to rush a trip. Both of you should be able to see an accidental gybe coming.
You both have learning to do. So go learn and start over with a clean slate. If you fall off the horse, you have to get back on.