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Old 01-28-2012
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There is a difference between the being on the helm and being the skipper. Some do not understand it.

Boats are not democracies. Having said that I did crew on one race boat in which there often was a lot of discussion, maybe too much, about tactics.

Once while cruising in Turkey with 4 women (a trend here), I indicated that it was just about time to come about. When one of the crew asked if she had a voice in this, the others responded in unison "No."

The suggestion of not inviting her back is a good one.

The situations you describe were annoying but not dangerous. In a crisis one person needs to make a call and that person is skipper.

I will discuss destinations, routes, anchorages, etc. with the crew. But it is my call when I am happy with an anchorage and how the anchor is set.
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