Originally Posted by wingNwing
Sorry, but ugh! Manipulative and paternalistic. Your goal is to make her your PARTNER, not to make yourself the superior and her your student or child. If you tried this with me, you'd either be hatless or swimming for it yourself. How about doing the drills together, to understand how the boat behaves? Then each of you does it alone while the other watches silently? Oh, and use a piece of bread as the overboard item - that way there's no emotion if your retrieval is unsuccessful.
If I'm understanding you correctly, Jay, I'm not sure that I agree. But, neither do I understand the fake loss of the hat scenario either. Why trick someone into doing the drill? Have an adult conversation and make it part of your regular trip planning, like filling in your log book or checking your systems before getting under way. Maybe plan to have a drill once a month. Maybe I figured out what Jaye meant.
We do the surprise MOB drills in our CG training and on regular patrols to ensure that the crew is really keeping a proper watch as well as to practice the MOB procedure. Perhaps a compromise would be to decide before getting under way that at any time during the trip you'll throw over a decided upon object? We used either a ring buoy or a giant yellow duck with a hook attached to its back until the CG issued us proper MOB mannequins that simulated the weight of an average person.